Dating Tips on Is Marriage For You?

So you’ve gotten into a heated argument with your significant other that quickly turned into a full blown fight, thanks to some unnecessary crap the spewed out of your mouth. He’s upset and you’re quite aware that it’s your fault. You’re also aware that a simple “I’m sorry” is not going to cut it. However, you do want to get past this mishap and move on to better things such as make up sex and just kissing your love and forgetting about all the other petty nonsense.

Here are some things you can do to reconnect with him after a fight:

•  - You called him an A**H***.

Damage Control: Take it back by saying your the “A” word for even saying that. He’ll forgive you if you call yourslef the same thing because he’ll know and feel you really didn’t mean what you said to him.

•  - You threatened to break up with him.

Damage Control: Quickly say that you’ve overreacted and was being melodramatic and promise not to threaten “breaking up” again. This is one of the worse thing you can actually do in a relationship. If your solution in every argument is to “break up,” either your not as committed as you thought and don’t value the relationship very much or you’re just a tad bit immature. He’ll forgive you because even though his trust is shakened up, you need to convince him that you know jumping the gun like that is uncalled for and unacceptable.

•  - Hits below the belt.

Damage Control: Admit that your comment was unnecessary and certainly a low blow. Then state a few reasons why you really didn’t mean what you said. He’ll forgive you because if you’re offering him specific reasons why you shouldn’t have said that with pointers on how very awesome he is, he’s bound to feel better and much more forgiving after you’ve taken it back and replaced it with compliments.

• - You said “I Hate You.”

Damage Control: Quickly state and express how embarrassed you are for acting like an immature little girl. Let him know that you realize your comment was childish and uncalled for. He’ll forgive you because he’ll respect the fact that you’re owning up to your shortcomings and immature behavior. In ways, he’ll be able to relate and eventually get over it.

All these scenarios mentioned above are common, particularly in couples that bicker. Bickering is fine, it happens… But when you start crossing the line, you better check yourself and take it back and most importantly don’t let these things become “normal” in your relationship. Insults and name calling are pretty much irrelevant, disrespectful and don’t resolve any altercations. In fact, low blows, name calling and rude comments may escalate the situation. Don’t allow this to happen. Practice the damage control tips above to correct things/the situation and be able to reconnect with him after a fight.